The end of DADT?

By Ramon Johnson,

The end of the military's ban on gays in the military could come as early as next year.

When human rights issues fall at the hands of defense priorities, what better way to reverse discriminatory policies than to attach it to a defense spending bill. It worked with The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act. Now, Rep. Barney Frank and other Congressional Dems want to try again, but this time with the controversial 'don't ask, don't tell' ban on gays in the military.

Dems plan to include the repeal as an amendment to a Department of Defense appropriations bill as early as next year... more at Advocate.com

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West Hollywood Gay Pride Parade 2009 - L.A. Happens eps.#103

The 39th Annual Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender pride parade is featured in this episode of "L.A. Happens" #103 hosted by John McQuilkin.

Long Beach Gay Pride 2009-Highlights

The 2009 Long Beach Gay Pride Parade. Adam (alifelessboring)and Jason (tbossbone)at Long Beach's Pride Festival!

Proud (40th Anniversary of the Stonewall Riots)

Inspiring images of gay pride, gay love, gay rights and gay history set to Heather Small's song "Proud," in celebration of Stonewall's 40th anniversary. Happy Pride!!

Stonewall Inn Riots-40 years later

The Stonewall Inn Riots in Greenwich Villiage~40 year anniversary.

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Why Don't All Gay Men Have Anal?

By Ramon Johnson

A lot of people assume that having anal sex is what makes a man gay or that all gay men have anal sex. This couldn't be further from the truth...In this article we answer that old question...Do All Gay Men Have Anal Sex?

According to Steven Gregory Underwood, author of Gay Men and Anal Eroticism, roughly three-fourths of gay men have had anal sex at one time or another throughout their lives. Now, assuming these men continue having anal sex, that leaves a quarter of all gay men that have either never tried or no longer have anal. That's a lot of gay men that aren't into anal sex. Why? There could be a number of reasons:

Personal taste. Some guys may have tried anal only to discover that they find no pleasure in topping or bottoming. Those that have never tried anal may continue to have no desire to participate.

Stigma. There are stigmas associated with men who have anal sex with other men. The top is often thought to be the dominant partner while the bottom is considered the more submissive. This isn't always true. So, anal sex can pose a problem to, say, a bottom that doesn't want to be seen as or feel like the "weaker" or less dominate man.

Anxiety. There are more letters in the STD alphabet soup than any of us would like. The risk of contracting an STD, from the most treatable to the incurable, causes quite a bit of anxiety. Anal sex can be a pathway to many fears, so some feel it's better to abstain than engage.

Feelings. Anal penetration is one of our closest physical connections. Many prefer there be feelings associated with that level of closeness. So, some men abstain from anal unless they have an emotional connection with their partner.

Sex is personal. So much so, that preferences, pleasures, desires, wants and needs vary by the individual. Our sexuality, which includes all of the things just mentioned, changes as we experience and grow. What we like today may not be what we're into tomorrow.

Ultimate fighting: homoerotic or homosocial?

By Ramon Johnson

Two guys locked in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu floor work—one on top, one on bottom—each in an attempt to submit the other with impenetrable holds sounds homoerotic; but are the gladiator contests of ultimate fighting "sporno" or just rough homosocial play?

An ultimate fighter has yet to come out publicly since The New York Times, About.com's parent company, featured gay rough-house Shad Smith in the magazine last year. The sport, however, has attracted an avid base of gay and bi fighters and fans.

As a person who trains with other boxers, I'd argue that there are more gay/bi boxing and MMA enthusiasts than the notoriously homophobic boxing leagues will admit. Yet, other leagues, such the UFC (Ultimate Fighting Championship), aren't so quick to tap out openly gay fighters.

"Any guy involved in grappling is the furthest thing from homophobic in the world," UFC President Dana White said, as reported by The Daily Beast. "I honestly think it would have no impact whatsoever with not only our fighters or our fan base."

White's gay embrace comes after a previous blast for spitting anti-gay slurs at his critics.

Could this be a new day for ultimate? Will underground gay boxing clubs start sparring out in the open? Given the historically homoerotic-yet-homophobic nature of hyper-masculine sports like boxing, it may be some time. But, with Dana White's crack in the door, ultimate could soon be the most open sport yet.

Image: Anderson Silva (R) fights Patrick Cote in the UFC Middleweight Title Bout. © Tasos Katopodis/Getty